One statement I’ve heard repeatedly over the last several years is “White men are terrified of strong women.” Really? Interestingly, I grew up in a family of truly “strong” women. My mother, my grandmother, my great-aunt, my piano teacher, my cousin, and so on. These were women who overcame adversities that most women today cannot even imagine. One absolute truth of all of them was that no one needed to label them or tell me they were “strong.” Their strength did not come through clever insulting remarks, rudeness, or making themselves out to be victims of any sort. They all rose above their adversities and challenges and chose to be productive, happy people. Not surprisingly, I wasn't afraid of any of them. I did have tremendous respect for each of them though. Anyone, male or female, once they choose to be a victim, defining themselves as such, are weak, not strong, because their victimhood is all that they are and I do not see any victim as “strong .”